How To Make Friends in America? Friendship Culture in USA! (Part 2)

I said like part of a clique yeah so If you like join a club It's almost like you're already In that clip that's the melody yeah It's like all of a sudden you're In It everyone's In It together yeah anytime I'm part of a group whatever you know maybe a class or a club or everyone's Immediate like as soon as I'm In It's like you're accepted yeah & so like friendships just start to naturally grow from there agree I personally feel that a lot of friendship In America Is like shallow which Is like upper level not like super deep yeah some I mean I'm not saying that I do have a lot of friends where I can you know talk like lifestyle life stuff & relationship stuff & money stuff like we were discussing just before filming this like real life stuff so would you agree or what what's your take on that I think It has to I agree there's a lot of shallow uh relations I think Americans don't like taking the first step yes they don't like going out of their comfort zone so If you approach them & say like let's go to coffee they're usually like yeah If you approach them with like maybe a deeper subject right then they're like okay I'm open to this yes but they are very open to small thoughts yeah you know say what Is small talk small talk Is like hey what's up yeah like did you see the game last night yeah okay yeah how's It going very surface level very like you could say It to a stranger & It wouldn't matter right I hate smallpox I'm really bad at smallpox yeah It's like a elevator If you're anybody you meet anybody on campus you can just literally just nod & like hey what's up how's It going & they'll just say cool how's It going with you like there's no meaning In It yeah they'll just do It It's just like a courtesy like I'll see something like oh like good morning how's It going oh It's going good okay have a great day yeah that's It but It's nice um I feel like something that I would advise Is that not everybody Is goanna want an emotional connection like some people can be very guarded & especially In America I think you know the tendency Is to have like sort of a lot of superficial friends right & then a very select few like really good personality yes & I know some people who want to have like that deep connection with everybody but It's just It doesn't work that way usually It's like I have a lot of people talk to & then I have lIke a select few who like that that's my these are my close friends & that's how It Is for a lot of people right & sometimes It you also need to give time yeah like It's not goanna happen In five meetings sometimes It's goanna take a year or more yeah to get to really know you & get comfortable to get that deep level of friendship how do people sustain their friendship for a long time I would say I mean you could do a lot of things the I mean the big thing Is just put In effort yes because I think some people like I'm  really bad at this I'll have a friend who like I'll text everyone smile & be like hey like how's It going they're like oh I'm good like we should meet up & then I never I never meet up with them because I'm just busy or I have a plate but um If you just put In the effort to even like I have a couple of friends where like every you know half a year we'll go get coffee yeah & like just that little effort like since we have such a long history It's like you know that keeps the friendship alive yes usually the effort you put In Is what they'll give back yes so If I you know plan a meeting with my friend you know every month & I can expect him to do the same for me yeah you know which Is that nice because I think some people are reluctant to reach out to an old friend because like oh they haven't talked to me In a long time yeah It's like when was the last time you talked to them yeah It kind of goes both ways so just put In the effort & especially In America I find that people like to hold on to friendships especially old friendships yeah they'll cling on to those I just went to um dinner recently with a guy who I've known for like like 17 or 18 years we know each other a long time I haven't seen him for a long time but since I've known him for so long It's just It just feels kind of natural nice & It we always put a little bit of effort In It just kind of keeps It alive yes hopefully our friendship philosophy so double that yes well I hope uh our friendship uh talk on friendship culture was helpful we'll bring more guests uh soon yes all right sun Is about to set we're goanna end this. You remember hubby & yeah of course keep smiling & keep hustling got to hustle every single day oh gosh It's not an Image I like you